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留学参考:Faith, Laughs, And Motivation At Stanford And Beyond  

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留学参考:Faith, Laughs, And Motivation At Stanford And Beyond

 

BY: MARC ETHIER ON MARCH 03, 2017 

 

George John Jordan Thomas Aquinas Hayward strides onto the stage at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business in a dark suit, and the stream of stories and jokes begins. An hour later, after talking grades, politics, sports, food, relationships, hip-hop, and many, many other topics, Hayward has nearly paced a hole in the floorboards and the crowd is wrung out from laughing and cheering. It’s a good thing there’s no second act.

Hayward is sharing his “motivational comedy” to raise awareness for local grief support charity Kara at the Stanford student-organized event Talk to Em (see video below) at the 300-seat Cemex Auditorium in Zambrano Hall. He talks to one side of the room filled with law students, then pivots to the other side, where the business students sit. It’s a perfect metaphor: Hayward is a JD/MBA joint degree candidate, and if the audience reaction is any indication, he has a finger on the pulse of both worlds.

“What I did in this comedy show was, I kind of compared and contrasted the schools,” Hayward tellsPoets&Quants in an interview a couple of weeks later. “What you see is, the crowd was laughing because there’s a lot of commonality. People have a lot more in common than they have differences because of their specialties. There are different application processes, and yes, there are differences, but generally they are more similar than they are different.”

ROLLING IN THE AISLES

From the start, Hayward has the crowd in the palm of his hand. But he isn’t in it for the laughs alone. Some things “need to be said,” he asserts.

He talks about the “Low Pass,” GSB’s rating for performances that fall in the lower quarter of all passing grades: “What does a Low Pass mean when the average GMAT score is 737? … What does a Low Pass mean when you accept 6% of the kids who apply? What do you give the six out of 100 who get in? I have a suggestion: You give them a round of applause! You give them two free tickets to Hamilton. You do not give them a Low Pass. I may be discombobulated, disaggregated, and disappointing, but I’m not a ‘low’ anything. We need to tell these deans what the meaning of ‘low’ is, because they forgot!”

He talks about consulting interviews: “I had a consulting interview and I don’t want to give away the name of the firm so I’ll call it McKimsey. And this firm said, ‘OK, how’s your resume? Fine. How’s your transcript? Fine. Time for the case question! How many ping-pong balls can fit in a Boeing 777?’

“Well I read Case in Point, so I can handle this. So I said, ‘You put 100,000 in one wing, 100,000 in the other wing, that’s 200,000, 100,000 in the fuselage, that’s 300,000, 50,000 in the cockpit, so 350,000 ping-pong balls is my final answer.’ He’s like ‘No. Completely wrong.’ I was like, ‘How is that wrong OR right?’ ‘You forgot the luggage compartment.’

“So I didn’t get that job because I’m not smart enough to count the ping-pong balls in the airplane. And that’s when it hit me. I said, ‘If you do know the number of ping-pong balls in an airplane, you’ve got the problem, bud, not me! You’re missing out on a lot of life!”

But then there are the pure laughs. Hayward talks about job interviews where his two ‘Cs’ in Mandarin Chinese always come up: “‘Well , George, what about these two Cs?’ And I tell them, ‘Well, Chinese is hard.’ And they said, ‘So is our job. Out!'”

He talks about stress, the kind caused by administrative hurdles as well as the kind caused by feedback: “Have you heard that feedback is a gift? Have you heard that? Feedback is a gift. In law school the only feedback you get on a 20-page exam is a scribble, a scribble, ‘that subject doesn’t agree with that verb, P.’ Here we get feedback all the time. ‘Feedback is a gift, feedback is a gift.’ It’s a gift I don’t want! Take that gift back to the store! Return it! It’s not so much positive feedback I have an issue with — that I can handle. It’s that negative feedback that really gets me going. I had a friend who definitely is not me who gave his girlfriend some feedback two weeks ago and I had to spend last night making him a new Bumble profile.”

FOUNDATIONS OF ‘MOTIVATIONAL’ COMEDY

There is no topic George Hayward can’t talk about at length. His boyish face belies 27 years of wide perspective, as he might say, from growing up in a household strained by illness to graduating from Harvard to helping his mother afford to stay in their family home after the death of his father. Hayward has interned for then-Senator Barack Obama, been a fellow in the offices of current New Jersey Senator Cory Booker and New York Mayor Bill de Blasio, and interned for then-California Attorney General, now California Senator Kamala Harris.

The son of a black mother, Jennifer — “my main girl” — and a white father, George, who died in 2010, Hayward grew up in White Plains, New York, and by his own admission “had no social skills — too scared to go to a deli on campus, too scared to even leave my room, basically.” That changed when, as a sophomore at the prestigious Phillips Exeter Academy in New Hampshire in 2004, he was persuaded to do a standup impersonation of George W. Bush.

“I don’t know why I accepted, but I got up there and did my George Bush impersonation,” Hayward recalls. “A month later, at a parent-teacher conference, my math teacher didn’t want to talk with my parents about math, she wanted to talk about this George Bush routine I did. My parents were like, ‘Who are you talking about? Our son doesn’t have the social skills to do this.'”

Hayward had broken out of his shell. But he didn’t want to be someone who just went for laughs. “There are a lot of serious things in life, and I wanted to be substantive,” he says. So he buckled down. It doesn’t get much more substantive than Harvard, from which he graduated in 2011 (with a summer in Oxford in 2009 for good measure), or a job as an analyst with Morgan Stanley, where he worked until joining Booker’s Senate campaign in 2013. The next year, he entered Stanford. Substantive and then some.

All along, Hayward has embraced comedy, but the comedy must be “motivational,” uplifting, inspirational. At the moment, given his surroundings, his fellow students are naturally the chief recipients of the message. “I want it to have a point,” he says. “For example, you fight your way into one of these schools, and you should be happy, and you are — and then suddenly you’re not happy anymore. Why is this? If you can’t be happy now, the grades are representing more than they should. So we’ve got to shake this up — meaning you still try to do as best you can, but you have a sense of humor about the system.”

His Story:

Stanford is diverse — I’ve never been in an environment with as diverse a set of experiences as I see here. You hear the words like “gender diversity,” “racial diversity,” etc., but there are other types. There are people who are dealing with different types of physical challenges, different types of family situations, different types of international situations, and you begin to learn that through going to class with them. For me, the most important thing about the business school by far are the people — who you meet here. Someone who has a totally different religion, or someone who has a totally different economic perspective. Maybe it’s someone who has grown up with a life goal of competing in the Olympics and nothing else. And you learn that it’s not just about the people who are here but the people they represent from elsewhere. You learn that “This person is from a different experience than I’m from, and what can I know more about that experience?”

There are so many different vantage points that intersect, and that’s where the cool thing is, and that’s what blew me away about Stanford — how varied the backgrounds are.

When I grew up we didn’t have a ton of money in my household, so I didn’t travel a lot and see as many things. Something I learned to value higher than almost any other trait is kindness. It’s hard to find sometimes — and here, people are very kind. They have different perspectives, and they seem to not be too competitive with one another, which is a big thing for me.

 

Both law school and business school people are very driven. One big difference is that things are a little more linear in the law school, because you must get a JD in most states to become a lawyer. But you don’t need an MBA to start a business. In fact most people who start a business don’t have an MBA, and so because it doesn’t have that linearity, it’s gotta be more wide open, and if you come to business school with that linearity in mind — if you say, “If I take these six courses, I will surely be successful” — that’s a huge mistake. It’s a complete waste. But if you come here and say, “Here are three things that I want to focus on over the next two years, and I am hoping to find people who can help me focus on those things, wherever they may take me in three dimensions,” it’s good. But in law school I don’t think the first-year curriculum has changed in seven years: Contracts, Constitutional Law, Property, these classes you just have to take and learn, and there’s kind of a committed community in that.

Both groups are extremely impressive, but what they do is very different. And then the other thing which I’m a big believer in is, you can’t let people and institutions define you. You look at (PayPal co-founder) Peter Thiel, that’s a law school person who is now basically being asked to talk at a business school. Or you look at a guy like Lloyd Blankfein who is a law school person but is leading Goldman Sachs. You can find lots of business people who are making interesting inroads in law.

The (Feb. 17) comedy show was very difficult because you had to bring in two different schools that don’t know each other. The crowd was very sober. And it’s in a lecture hall, which is not the ideal setting for comedic stuff. But we had good vibes, and there were some things that had to be said. For instance, a Low Pass — they have a deleterious effect on students’ psyche, and that’s not what we want. What you want is for people to change the world. And the way people change the world is by believing in themselves. This is not zero-sum. So when I tell you, “This is how you change the world, this is what a Low Pass is,” can you imagine giving someone a Low Pass in a Leadership class? It’s like, “I get into business school, it said I’m not a good leader, that’s it!” What I want is for everyone to do what their God-given gifts are, and we’ll see what happens. Things like Low Passes, things like overly structured rules in creative environments, are basically not so good.

There have many challenges for me. Most people who tell jokes have had periods where they felt sad or when they dealt with things that made them sad. This means that you have to grapple with some of life’s stuff. And so for me, it’s that my father was always ill, and I’m a person who has to fix things, but I could never fix the medical situations that he was in. He eventually passed away in 2010, and I had to deal with that. But when I look back on it, I also see some positives with it, because it taught me a lot of things.

First of all, it taught me not to be complacent about things like five-year plans. If you come to a school like this, everyone talks about a five-year plan. You might not be here in five years. Some things have to be done now. My father didn’t always have five years. When you live with that, you think about that.

Number two, my mother, who I’m very close with — I call her my main girl Jennifer — she helped when I was in high school and I didn’t fit in very well. My mother was very protective, she was like, “Baby, you’re going to be great. You don’t have a girl, one day you will!” When my father was sick, she had to do a bunch of jobs — she was a buss monitor, she worked at the White Plains Public Library as a book shelver. She came home one day so upset because someone had thrown down a book and pointed at her to pick it up, and she was so disrespected — and as a young man, you feel like you have to one day do something for her to make it better. That’s a story that you can hear in a lot of places.

We didn’t have a ton of money, but we had big perspective. So for example, my father went to Harvard Law School, my mother was a fashion designer who graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology and she emigrated here from Jamaica and had these very wide perspectives.But my father ended up getting sick and things changed and it was hard to work, and all the money guest bills, so I always could see the idea of pulling yourself up from your bootstraps — I understood that idea. I understand the philosophy that goes with that. But I couldn’t only see that because I saw my father and what a tough time he had. We were a very positive family, we would joke about things, we kept it on the lighter side, and we kept on being persistent, and so we kept on going. But a couple of the big values were, No. 1, don’t let people define you, and my father was always big on that, and No. 2, never give up. And then you have to have a certain positivity because you don’t know what tomorrow is gonna bring. There were so many times when something would just break my heart, and then it was the best thing for me.

Failures are common, but they’re never discussed. That’s part of what I try to do with humor. This is discussed in the scientific community all the time: They only publish what works and not the failed hypotheses. But you can learn from failures, so I try to remove some of the stigmas attached to them.

I once went to a talk many years ago with Garry Kasparov, the chess master. He’s a really interesting guy and one of the things he said that I never forgot is, he spends more time analyzing his losses in chess than his wins. Why? someone asked. And he said, “Because in the wins, you don’t usually diagnose the problems, because you don’t see them because you won. They’re much clearer in the losses.” That’s what sort of happened with Democrats in the last eight years. President Obama is a preternatural campaigner, and we were so happy to see him in the White House that we maybe could have looked a little closer at what was going on at the local and state levels. Now Republicans are two or three states away from having the power to amend the Constitution through the states. What Democrats need to is focus less on Donald Trump and more on what is the positive thing a Democrat can bring to somebody in the Midwest? It can be done and I think it will be done, but this is a situation where you have to also look at yourself and figure out what changes to make.

But that said, I don’t want to over-learn the message of 2016, because it was a very close election. In a couple states, if you look at Michigan, Wisconsin, and Pennsylvania, with a little bit less time in Arizona and less time in Ohio and more time in those three states — less time in North Carolina, more time in Florida — you could very much have a different election. That said, especially people in my generation, those so-called millennials, I can’t imagine us skipping an election again, or taking things for granted. A lot is on the line right now, if you look at the Supreme Court and the things that are going on.

One day, when the time is right, politics will be in my future. I gotta take care of my main girl Jennifer, so that’s something I have to stay focused on, but you will absolutely see me in politics when the time is right. And I will know when the time is right.

One of the things I’ve learned about politics is, first of all it’s a long process. Second of all, you cannot pick your life based on politics. You have to be happy outside of politics. For instance, you have to find a place where your family is set up in a way that works for them, and you have a role there, and then the rest will come. I would never pick a place and say, “This is the place I will go because of politics,” but the part of California that I like, the people of California are very good, and the food is great.

I came to California and I tripped over a basketball, I looked down and it was an acorn. Things are huge here! People would ask me, “What’s California like?” I’d say, “I don’t know, I’m not the library, you tell me.” So after the first year of law school, when I came out of my black hole, I began to look at California. I came out here because of the positive vibes here. There are good vibes here. People care about work-life balance, which you need to care about — even if you don’t have it. A lot of other places, it’s kind of like the anti-goal, it’s like the harder you work, the more you are. Like I said, my mom is still in New York, so I have to take care of her, but at this time I’m more focused on California.

 

My long name comes from this: Jordan is my mother’s maiden name, John is my brother’s name and they put that in my name, so I was born George John Jordan. Then I was confirmed and I chose the Catholic saint Thomas Aquinas because I’ve always been far more spiritual than I was religious. If you look at the Christian faith, Jesus was far more spiritual than he was religious — he said once, “I want mercy, not sacrifice.” He said, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” That was revolutionary back then, and I like that.

And George comes from my father George. My father was a brilliant man. His father was a coal miner in Wilkes Barre, Pennsylvania. The funny thing is, my father was born in Kingston, Pennsylvania, my mother was born in Kingston, Jamaica. He was white, she is black. They met on a blind date. He graduated from Harvard Law and he had this huge trajectory but he got sick right away after law school. But even though he was not very physically health he could always read, and because I was a nerd, we had that father-son bond. He still had his pride and his swagger, intellectually.

Mother was very strong. In my house it was always about strong women, because physically, my mother was the one to do stuff. She’d pick him up and she took care of him. So my mom is super tough. She’s the kind of person who I’d say, “Mom, someone was mean to me today,” and she’d be like, “What do you say back?” and I’d say, “Nothing,” and she’d say, “Well that’s not my son!”

WE ASK FOUR QUESTIONS OF EVERYONE: “What is the best advice you’ve ever received?” “What is the greatest challenge you’ve ever faced?” “Describe an event that changed your life.” And “What two things are you most grateful for?”

The best advice I ever received was from my mom. “Have faith, the Lord always delivers.”

The greatest challenge was that my mom’s house was being foreclosed on. Because my father had died, there were taxes and it fell to me to financially solve the problem. If I did not solve the problem, my mother, my main girl, would have been out, she would have nowhere to live. We solved the problem.

An event that changed my life was when my father was dying, he was going into a surgery, and the doctor said he had a 50% chance to live. The last thing I heard him say was, “Your help has been invaluable,” which was very nice to hear. We waited six or seven hours and there was no word, so we went home. He was at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital, in intensive care — one of the best hospitals you could possibly be in. And I had an iPhone and I went back to work and I got the phone call from my mother, this buzzing, and he ended up surviving that particular surgery but dying a month later.

But the phone buzzed, and it was huge pressure. I knew on the other side of that phone call, he’s a dead man or he’s alive, and since then it’s helped me keep perspective. A lot of times I get caught up in stuff, and I remember, “When that phone was buzzing, and you knew once you answered it, and you’re never going to forget your mom saying, ‘You still have a dad.'” That’s a holy-shit story, “This is real, this is a human being right now.” A lot of growth happened through that experience, and one of the reasons I like to do these jokes nowadays is because I know there are people who are going through these things. That’s why I say I take jokes seriously. When I think about the stress of the dad thing and I think about what some people are going through — we all have to carry our own crosses in certain ways, and so light things that can make us appreciate the good things in life, that’s legit stuff, man. And if you can push those vibes out there people are gonna take those vibes because a lot of people are suffering.

I was 20 or 21 when that phone call came in, and it was a 10 out of 10 on the scale of stress. And I do not like that feeling. But I save that and I use it as a high-water mark. It made me realize there are things that can happen in life and they can happen at any time.

The things I am most grateful for are faith and family. Those are cliches so I want to try to make them less cliche. The faith is because there have been times in my life where I felt, “There is no way out of this situation, financially, socially, physically,” times when someone close to you is passing away, things like that when you feel like no one is backing you. When I talk about faith I view it the way Dr. King said, “The arc of the moral universe is long but it bends towards justice,” in some places they call the concept the Tao — the concept that it will work out, which is very reassuring when you feel like your options are closing. That’s gotten me through hard times.

Secondly, my family is the only reason I’ve been able to have regular friends and been more social. Because in the beginning, it was very hard for me in school. I just didn’t know what to do in social situations and I’d get so stressed about stuff, and over time because people accepted me and gave me a lot of love, because family was there for me, I became comfortable with who I was. And people become comfortable with you when you become comfortable with yourself. That’s why I “Like” all my posts first on Facebook. It’s a little running joke. It’s my little thing: You’ve got to like your thing and then people can come and like it — but if you don’t like it first, how can they be expected to like it?

 

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